a friend? where?

This saturday is love and friendship day here in colombia, is something like valentines day for the rest of the world. after reading tons of gay guys online profiles it seems that we are looking for friends as much as sex, and bfs.

but is finding a friend harder than a boyfriend?

when i first moved to bogota i hardly new a couple of friends here int the city, and only one was gay, i started meeting new people trough him, but not actually friends, at same time, i was looking for a boyfriend, i used to log on gay.com, gaydarguys.com and all types of websites as well as socialnetworks like hi5.com, after a couple of years i had 3 boyfriends and only 1 friend.

was i looking in the wrong place? maybe, but the real question is what are we looking in our friends?

living in a plastic society, like the gay community, most of the time finding love is like filling a check list, what he wears, how much he earns, where does he live, is he good looking, how is his body, do my friends like him.. and many more. but what about friends? is sad, but is the same! somehow gay guys stop looking for friends that they can rely on, or laugh and cry with.

a friendship according to wikipedia (i cant believe im quoting this) "connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection, and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as the exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship"

within the years i found that there a different types of friends, the ones that you fuck and then become friends (fuck buddies), the ones to go to parties and clubs with, the ones from school (study friends), the ones that approach you becuz you have something they want or desire (wannabe friends, facebook friends (you dont even know them) and of course the ones that really cares about you, and want the best of you, the ones that you call your bff, and no matter what they will aways be there to support you.

have a happy love and friendship day, tell your friends how much do you care about them and love them, and remember that at the end, friends are the only ones who stay, boyfriends come and go.

toodles,

guylian

Got Milk?

A few days ago I went to a dinner party at a friend house, food was awsome, we started dancing drinking gin, aguardiante, anyway... we were having fun, it was a mixed crowd, some how we endend talking about sex, life, relationships and more, as people talk, i realized how many lies you can say in 3 hours, and to your friends!

We all lie, to make our stories sound better, about brands, how many guys we slept with, and so on. we live ina world of fakeness, fake louis vuitton purses everywhere, fake bodies, fake personalities, fake hair, fake foods and fake orgasms.

For a long time we all know, that 70% of women have faked an orgasm at least once during sex, and since tv shows, movies and magazine make it "normal" we dont even care about that fact. but when guys start doing it and talking about it?

Male ejaculation usually accompanies orgasm, so that's why i was so hard to do it, i'm not going to try to explain why we do it. it's a fact. guys fake it too. no matter if you are gay or not. but how can you do it? i found two ways to do it. and it just depends if you are being a top or a bottom.

if you are topping is easier, and condom revolution make it popular. if you cum inside your partner and you are wearing a condom he wouldnt know if you came or not. so all you have to do is take it off and throw it away asap. but in the other hand, if you're getting fucked, you have to use your imagination here. well most of the time the top can see when you cum. and if you are strocking your dick and cant cum that can be very dissapointed, so use your saliva. al you have to do is spit in your hand, make the movements, the sounds, and if you rub your saliva in your stomach it would look like you cum a little bit and is all messy.

I've done both and trust me it works, i didnt feel good, but at least i made a guy happy :)

toodles,

guylian